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It's Not Love, Actually

How to Find the Life and Love You Deserve

by Dee Salmin

'The guide to modern womanhood.' - Hannah Ferguson Have you ever been made to feel less than just because you're single? Maybe you're tired of shrinking yourself and your needs? Or just sick of the low-effort, bar-on-the-floor dating culture?Well, Dee Salmin definitely is . . . and after years of talking to people about their love lives on triple j's award-winning podcast The Hook Up, she's ready to share everything she's learnt in this part-memoir, part-manifesto on dating, sex and love. From being single and thriving, to dating with boundaries, to finding love that's actually worth your energy, Dee blends research, expert insight and unapologetic truth-telling in this funny, furious and totally unfiltered guide. In a world that keeps telling women to settle, It's Not Love, Actually will empower each of us to embrace the life we deserve, and whether single or partnered up, remind us that the happiest, hottest and healthiest relationship should always be the one we have with ourselves. 'This book belongs in the hands of anyone who wants love that is truly respectful, healthy and happy - which is all of us.' - Chanel Contos'Dee Salmin is as incisive and self-aware as ever, delivering the most important lesson any twenty-something can learn: never, ever settle.' - Zara McDonald'The modern bible I wish I had sooner.' - Jemma Sbeg'Should be mandatory reading for every woman.' - Georgie Purcell
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Pages:

352

Published:

Apr 2026

Format

Paperback

Publisher

Pan Macmillan Australia Pty, Limited

Imprint

Macmillan

ISBN:

9781761778896



'The guide to modern womanhood.' - Hannah Ferguson
Have you ever been made to feel less than just because you're single? Maybe you're tired of shrinking yourself and your needs? Or just sick of the low-effort, bar-on-the-floor dating culture?Well, Dee Salmin definitely is . . . and after years of talking to people about their love lives on triple j's award-winning podcast The Hook Up, she's ready to share everything she's learnt in this part-memoir, part-manifesto on dating, sex and love. From being single and thriving, to dating with boundaries, to finding love that's actually worth your energy, Dee blends research, expert insight and unapologetic truth-telling in this funny, furious and totally unfiltered guide. In a world that keeps telling women to settle, It's Not Love, Actually will empower each of us to embrace the life we deserve, and whether single or partnered up, remind us that the happiest, hottest and healthiest relationship should always be the one we have with ourselves.

'This book belongs in the hands of anyone who wants love that is truly respectful, healthy and happy - which is all of us.' - Chanel Contos


'Dee Salmin is as incisive and self-aware as ever, delivering the most important lesson any twenty-something can learn: never, ever settle.' - Zara McDonald


'The modern bible I wish I had sooner.' - Jemma Sbeg


'Should be mandatory reading for every woman.' - Georgie Purcell
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